Tips for dating a lesbian mother
This is understandable and usually enabled by the fact that meeting other lesbians is something that tends to happen in very social settings.It’s cool to want to calm your nerves, but don’t let it get too far, because that tends to get messy. You can buy her a drank, but if you find that you’re actually saying the word ‘drank’ out loud as a noun, you probably have had one too many of them.Maybe you overheard her say “Tegan and Sara” or “Turkish oil wrestling.” Maybe she looked at you first–did she? I know, this is a relatively simple concept, looking at people you’re interested in, but there’s a special brand of eye contact that goes on between two girls who like girls.It lasts barely half a second, but that flit of eye contact can mean so much.Like an agreement or an acknowledgement or membership in a (not-so) secret club–a club called ‘lesbians.’ It’s a “you’re gay, I’m gay” kinda thing. No one’s going to believe in your game if you don’t believe in your game (even if you’re not the gaming type). Seriously, whoever you’re talking to is going to read off your cues, and so if you’re putting yourself down or always apologizing, she’ll believe you have reason to do so.Very preliminary in picking up chicks, but also very important, especially if you’re not in a specifically queer environment. And confidence, not to be confused with cockiness or flashiness, is attractive. You’re good at something, I promise, so talk about that a little.Gay eye contact allows you to circumvent all that hassle of accidentally hitting on straight girls. And even if you’re not good at anything, know–not think–that you’re cute and charming enough to pull it off.Play to your strengths, and you’ll come of as charming and worth getting to know.
No big deal, just make sure you’re not making excuses so that you don’t have to call back when you say you will.
As in, don’t show up with your pants off (this only works sometimes).
Yeah, you want her to know you’re into her, but there’s no need to throw yourself all over anyone. Leaving a little out will keep her guessing, which means she’ll want to talk to you more. My girlfriend apparently used to wink to pick up girls. That’s because they don’t, and that’s why it worked.
As far as saying nice things go, that’s pretty self-explanatory. When the Spice Girls told this to baby gay KC Danger over ten years ago, I had no idea how relevant this would be. I mean, some girls are this lucky, but most probably aren’t. Come on bros, just by being out you’re fighting the good fight and resisting the patriarchy etc. Don’t take this risk, you may end up committing an interrobang!
Your friends know you more than you give them credit for, and they’re always (usually? I never called this one girl back because she had a really boring name, and I thought that if things worked out, it would look dumb to have her listed on my Facebook profile.