Questions to ask someone before dating them
If you’ve just met someone online that you’re interested in, the fact that they have a terrible or broken relationship with family members shouldn’t be an automatic deal breaker.(You knew there was going to be a “however” didn’t you.) If you date or marry this person, issues associated with their family of origin will rear their heads in your own relationships.
It can clue you in on what they’ve studied (or not studied), what they find interesting (or whether they’re trapped in a dead-end job they loathe), and what they spend a good chunk of every day doing and thinking about.The better you are at asking questions, the more you’ll learn about someone you meet online and the better you’ll be able to gauge whether this person might be a good fit for you (and vice versa).So what should you ask someone interesting when you meet online? This question gets a bad rap sometimes as unimaginative and banal, but I think it’s hugely important.Whether we like it or not, our family experiences have played a large role in shaping us in all sorts of ways – our likes and dislikes, our approach to communication and conflict, and what we instinctively consider to be “normal”.Early on in any new relationship, it’s wise to get a sense of how someone thinks about (and relates to) their parents and siblings.