No dating until after college
Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.
Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.
Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
These couples usually made it to their seventh anniversary before divorcing sometime later.
Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?
Currently I co-run a longitudinal study of marriage and family development, started in 2008 and ongoing, and the answers couples gave me about their engagement ranged from several months to several years.
Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.
There is actually a lower divorce rate now than in the 80s, and what marriage means on a societal level is also changing.
On one hand creating an ultimatum for your partner rarely motivates romance.
Only time will tell how modern marriages are growing and changing from those started long ago.
What do these timelines mean for you still waiting for your man to propose?
If not, you may find yourself like Jennifer Aniston’s character in Bruce Almighty (she repeats this long-suffering role in “He’s Just not that Into You”) whose boyfriend needs literal divine intervention from God to get him to propose.
In real life God doesn’t make such obvious house calls.