Kids dating too young
You may not be able to change your parents’ or caregivers’ minds.Many families have expectations that young people won’t date or have relationships until they reach a certain age or are ready to get married.Many parents are concerned when their 13 year old wants to have a boyfriend.Going out can mean different things at different ages. Diana from Grainger, TX I have a 13 year old daughter too, and "yes", personally I think it is way too early. (08/26/2007) By Letha I must agree; 13 is too young.For you, I'd suggest not making too big of an issue of it so that she stops talking. Perhaps negotiate the parameters and invite him over to see how he feels about it all. So, as a result, she's not a good mother to the 2 she has now. I know this may sound like "Oh another naive parent", but if you knew some of our conversations you would think different. I am not saying they can't have girls as friends, but I feel school is way more important. Boys weren't a big deal for me in high school and I can't tell you how thankful I am for that.Encourage mature decision making by them, rather than you, to avoid being the one to rebel against. I'm happy for the relationship you have with your daughter. (09/01/2007) I have a 13-year-old daughter, and "yes" she does have a boyfriend, I have been talking to her about boys and sex and relationships since she was 9 years old. She looks 16; not because she dresses provocatively, she just developed at a very young age. SO this being said, I know she has a very good head on her shoulders and good morals. I just found out recently that a girl at school likes my eldest twin. It wasn't that they were forbidden, though, it was simply never an issue with my parents, and that's where I'm going with this.(08/27/2007) By ELRJ Yes, 13 is too young to "go out", but times have changed. DD14 will be turning 15 soon and has a "boyfriend". Personally, I found your request a bit amusing simply because I'm the mother of a 13 year old boy who "doesn't have a girlfriend". Some of his little friends "have girlfriends", and I think at times he feels left out.Personally our rule is no "dating" until you are 16. Yes, I think 13 is too young to be dating, but to simply be "talking" (as some of the young folks say) is okay (i.e. I think this is a normal part of socialization and as long as the situation remains innocent (talking only and with time limits, phone curfew, etc.), it'll be okay. We as parents can only hope we instill enough in our children for them to make good choices.
Needless to say, at 46, I now know the joys of pure friendship without the emotional strings that come attached with love. Sharon (08/26/2007) By sharon weidensaul Yes, it's too young. I had a lot of boyfriends, and started "dating" in 6th grade.
• “My parents/caregivers don’t like the person I’m dating.” Knowing your parents or caregivers don’t like the person you’re dating can be hard to deal with. Maybe they’re concerned about: • “My parents/caregivers are worried about pregnancy or STIs.” Pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are risks of being sexually active.
Your parents or caregivers want to keep you safe and healthy.
Maybe you’re allowed to date, but your parents or caregivers don’t like the person you’re dating.
If you and your parents or caregivers have a disagreement about dating, try to have a calm discussion and be willing to compromise. Are they concerned that dating is a distraction from school? Suggest compromises they may feel more comfortable with such as group dates, coming home by a certain time or only going out with people they’ve met.