Successful minorities love to say, “You're privileged but I'm so smart and awesome and financially secure that I have the same, if not better, house, car, and woman as you.”Need evidence that some black men see dating a white woman as a sign of their success?Just listen to the lyrics of rap music from the likes of Kanye West, Chris Brown, We Dem Boyz, or Wiz Khalif.A fetish is purely sexual and the person will be attracted to ALL people of that race/appearance regardless of the person.By comparison, attraction is often just the spark which initiates a romance. If they don’t think your interracial relationship is based on a fetish, they might think it is a status thing, or a “come up.”This is most seen in interracial relationships with white women and black men.“He was a white guy who was 19, and he would not let it go! Instead of shunning the curious stranger, they talked to him, and “it turned out that he had just started dating a black woman and was excited to see [our relationship] was working.It was goofy, awkward, immature, but it came from a genuine place.” You never know.The typical advice about interracial dating says to “just ignore it.” In reality, it won’t be so easy.
In this article about meeting the parents when you are in an interracial relationship, David Schiller gives some good tips, like pretending that you like all the food and refraining from mentioning race at all. Even if you think your family is totally cool and not the least bit racist, it might still come as a surprise when you show up for dinner with a person from ___ race. Some of these questions might be well intentioned, but ignorant and painful nonetheless.Of course, this isn’t always the case – but you should be prepared for it. When the white protagonist in the movie starts a relationship with a black guy, the guy’s female friend responds with:“White girls like you, creeping up, taking our men — the whole world ain't enough, you've got to conquer ours too.”Sarah James talks about this in her article for the Huffington Post.She puts the comment in the context by pointing out that Other stats show that 42% of black women are unmarried – which leads you to understand why black women might feel like a white woman is “creeping up” on their men.Yes, it sucks to let bigots dictate your life, but it is difficult not to let racism ruin your evening.For example, one interracial couple in Houston said they stopped going to country music concerts together.