How to talk to a guy who is intimidating
Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.What does it mean when a guy says you’re intimidating? Basically it means he thinks you’re a little too much for him to handle. What is it that a guy will find intimidating about a woman? For other guys it’s an independent streak that makes them feel inferior (and proves them to be dumb asses).
Women who have nerdy interests are frequently less traditionally “feminine”. And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once. She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.The more beautiful or desirable a woman, the more she can have her pick of men.Olivia Munn may be a geek1 , but how is average Joe Nerd supposed to compete with the celebrities she meets on a daily basis?