Dos and donts to dating
Having expectations and checklists will encourage judgment and make you narrow.
Because behind every time someone uses that word, there is someone who feels ripped off, discouraged, and tired of dating. If all your photos are the best photos you’ve ever taken in your life, you will be starting with your date being disappointed. But you’re not trying to convince someone to change their personal view points. You will learn what works, what doesn’t work, what you want, don’t want. Dig that moat or go out of your castle and run free. This is not the time to get into the sob story of what happened with your past relationships. If your date happens to ask you when was your last relationship, you may tell them, but move on swiftly.A date is for two people to get to know each other and it won’t happen if you start vomiting out the mouth making everything relate back to you. So if you’re feeling the date, make sure you ask them questions. And I get that it takes time to completely show ourselves. You have a responsiblity to communicate your feelings. Most people don’t communicate their feelings due to fear. And when we’re talkative, we can easily get into a talking loop instead of a nice back and forth flow of conversation. I get that in the beginning you want to show your best self, especially if you’re into someone. Through the dating process, as you get closer to each other and spend more and more time. As things come up, because things will, you are responsible for your own shit. In a nutshell, it prevents the space for magic and the natural unfolding. Yes, there is a chance someone can be the next big chapter of your life. But if you’re constantly wondering if they are or not, they won’t be.6. Movies have programmed us to believe that if we don’t feel the lightning in the bottle, it’s not real. That “lightning” is most likely coming from past and wiring. You’ll end up becoming a prisoner and merely exist instead of live.