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My sisters and I were in the same boat when we went to school. We assimilated into an outer-borough American culture in which it was assumed that everyone was “ethnic,” that everyone belonged to some religious minority or another, and that of course you’d constantly be mingling with people who looked different from you, because that was an inescapable fact of life.Brooklyn in this era was hardly a paradise of interethnic harmony. Even so, I definitely felt more typical than strange in being an American-born child of immigrants, and diversity in my world was so pervasive that I found its absence really jarring.The site nudges you to answer as many questions as you can stand, and it also nudges you to make your answers public, as you can only see the answers of potential dates if you disclose your own answers.Answering questions allows Ok Cupid’s fancy algorithms to identify people who might be a good fit for you.There are good reasons to question the moral appropriateness of strong same-race preferences and their close cousin, in-group favoritism.In , Nancy Di Tomaso argues that persistent racial inequality in the United States is not solely or even primarily a reflection of racism and discrimination.When my parents settled in Brooklyn in the mid-1970s, there were only a small handful of Bengali-speaking South Asian Muslims in the city, and so self-segregation wasn’t really an option.Like it or not, they had to interact with and rely on people outside of their ethnocultural group.
” Questions are an important part of what makes Ok Cupid work.
In a somewhat similar vein, one of Ok Cupid’s questions reads as follows: “Would you strongly prefer to go out with someone of your own skin color/racial background?
” I was struck by the not inconsiderable number of people who answered “yes”—including some people I know “in real life,” many of whom are hilariously self-righteous about their enlightened political views.
This kind of “opportunity hoarding” is accepted as par for the course.
We could make an effort to eliminate in-group favoritism, but such an effort would inevitably fail, as in-group favoritism is a powerful human impulse.